Dana Sibilsky—No Preparation, Only Action


If you are reading this looking for parenting tips and tricks because you are expecting a child, I can honestly say there is nothing you can ever read to prepare you for the miracle that is giving birth and bringing a new life into this world. I say this through my own personal experience as well as from the experience of over 100 mothers—you cannot prepare for children.


Hello, my name is Dana Sibilsky and I am a SAHM of three wonderful delights (as I am biased of my children). I can honestly tell you that even though I read countless articles, magazines and took notes from my own mother's stories, nothing panned out as planned. With my first child, I was a mixture of emotions: Scared, excited, stressed, worried, but still hopeful.

I was determined to take things into my own hands as many expecting mothers do. I got the books and subscribed to multiple mother's blogs. I soaked in every bit of information available to the public. In a sense, the information helped with not being completely left in the dark, but with every child being different as well as every woman's body, my experience was nothing like any of the mothers I had taken notes from. Let me give you an example. Some women are in absolute chronic pain when giving birth to their child while others are in a pain not nearly as intense. Some women hurt so bad they pledge to never have another child again while others continue to reproduce.

Keep in mind I'm not saying all this to scare you from having children. Having a child is a beautiful thing. What I am saying is that there isn't much of a way to prepare to have a child. There are things you can do to ensure that you have a smooth pregnancy such as taking care of your body with what you put into it. For some, this may mean no more partying, getting good sleep, avoid alcohol and limit your caffeine intake. Remember than you are not your own person anymore because your health is directly linked to the health of another being close to your heart, literally.

In conclusion, the information you can find online is helpful, but children are human beings rather than machines. You can't read a how-to because every child is different whereas most machines are generally the same as for functionality. What works for one child will not work for other. As much as you may hate to be on your own with this matter, this is the best way. You'll have your own memories with your child you raised yourself and you'll have a great sense of accomplishment knowing that you did it!

About the author:

Dana Sibilsky is a stay-at-home mother of three little prides and joys. When she isn't investing her time into her family, she is investing time into her blog and spreading the wisdom from her experience to others. www.danasibilsky.wordpress.com

20 comments

  1. My fiance-to-be was telling me these exact same things. It really sets this in stone for me to also hear these words come from someone else with more experience and more children. Great post Dana Sibilsky and thank you Cristen for sharing!

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  2. I love the way this is written. It's a great read!

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  3. Well, I guess I should stop wasting my time reading all these "what to expect" books. To be honest, this article makes more sense. I've often wondered what if my books aren't covering everything.

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  4. Everything in this article is dubbed by my wife as true. You absolutely cannot prepare for pregnancy no matter how many books you read. The best teacher on this particular matter is your OWN experience.

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  5. I wanted a child, but now knowing how unpredictable it is, I might be reconsidering. Not everything is for everyone I guess.

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  6. I forgot to mention I have shared this with my circles of friends. This is crucial information IMO.

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  7. Exactly, a book can not define "how-to" guide for human being. Every person has different nature and emotions, so we have to treat them differently. Worth reading the article.

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  8. Yes, I love that you say a child is a human being rather than a machine! This is important for parents and people in general to remember. There is no one right way to raise a child.

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  9. Very interesting words, miss Dana Sibilsky. May I ask though how long did it take you to learn these things? Great article too!

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  10. Jessica StrollandJuly 2, 2015 at 10:35 AM

    I posted a comment before but I suppose it didn't go through. What I was saying was I almost spend so much money on reading material, classes and other things to "help prepare" for our new arrival coming soon. That is money that could be saved to prepare financially.

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  11. I agree with you Jessica. The best way to prepare is financially.

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  12. Better to be prepared than in the dark. Peace.

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    1. I don't think you read the article, Hurk. There is really no way to prepare for pregnancy or having a newborn.

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  13. This information could not have come at a better time.

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  14. Dana Sibilsky has some great material! I hope she publishes more material here. This is my site of choice to read about family.

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