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Thinking About A Second Child? Consider This First

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It only seems like yesterday when your baby was born. You remember every single detail of the pregnancy and the birth vividly. However, now that your baby has gone from a tiny little bundle to a walking, talking toddler bursting with energy, you may find yourself thinking about having a second child, and whether if it is the right time for you to have a second child. Ultimately, it is up to only you and your partner to think about when the ideal time is for having more children.

But you do need to think about different aspects. Second pregnancies are completely different than the first. No pregnancy is ever the same as before. You should ask yourself some questions before making that final decision:

Do you find yourself wanting children who are close in age so that they can grow up together and remain close through life?

How does the idea of sleepless nights and endless nappy changing appeal to you?

If you answered yes, then you’re more than likely ready to make a start on having another baby. If you find it isn’t working, you could try a pregnancy miracle book. Of course, there are other factors to keep in mind as to when you decide when to have a second child, including: your finances, child-care choices, work responsibilities, your first child, and the size of your home.

Whichever spacing scenario you choose comes with its different shares. For example, if you’ve got two babies in diapers, they’ll have a great time playing with each other. Plus, you won’t have to hunt for different types of toys or activities to entertain them. Keep in mind, though, that closely spaced siblings can be exhausting to look after and can be very competitive, competing for attention, food, toys etc. The early years are the most demanding of parenting but, even though it may not seem it at the time, they’re over relatively quickly.

On the other hand, if you decide to have your children further apart, this enables you to space out the physical work and allows you to focus on each child individually. However, a potential negative point about spacing children out is that they may be more reluctant playmates. There is also no guarantee there will be fewer disagreements and/or arguments. You will also be spending more years in being an active parent, which could be a positive or a negative, depending on what you plan for yourself in the future.

A second baby will be an added expense no matter when it happens, but the timing of your second pregnancy can have a big impact on how much extra money you will have to pay out for things in preparation for the arrival of your new baby. You and your partner might want to come up with an early budget to see what you might be able to afford in the near future versus the (seemingly) distant future to help you make your decision. Then, you may need to budget hard and save as much as you can.

So, regardless of what age your first child is, you may be feeling nostalgic for those days when you could hold and care for your own baby. So, how can you determine if you’re ready to handle a second pregnancy, and a second child, and everything that comes with it? While only you and your partner can truly decide what’s best for your family, there are a lot of important factors and details to think about when the both of you are deciding if you’re ready to start planning your second pregnancy.

Just as you wanted to be as healthy as you possibly could when you were trying for your first child, you will still want to be as fit and healthy as possible before tackling your second pregnancy. You want to be in the best shape possible, in preparation for trying and having a second child. While it takes at least a year to fully recover from pregnancy (vitamin depletion, strain on your reproductive system, and weight fluctuations), there is no rule that says you need to wait a full year before trying again. Lots of parents decide to have a second child pretty soon after their first, if that is what they have decided and what suits them.

So, don’t rush into having a second child if you are not completely positive about every aspect surrounding it. Think about it and eventually you will make the right choice for you.



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