And some people can. I’m not saying it’s impossible. But over the years I’ve come to see the process of becoming a mom as a huge wave that overtakes us, drags us along the bottom, scratches us up along the bottom and dumps us on to the beach, breathing hard and wondering what just happened.
“Ma” Morning Practice
- 1.) Grab a notebook and sit on a blanket or cushion, in a place in your house that feels special to you. Over time – put some things nearby – rocks, shells, candles, whatever makes you feel good and calm to look at.
- 2.) Do a breath practice. Start with this easy grounding breath: close your eyes and exhale to the count of 6 through your mouth. If you’re not pregnant, use your abs to draw ribs and belly in and back on the exhale. Either way, make a “ha” sound like you’re misting up a window in winter.
- Then breathe in through your nose to the count of 6, lifting your chest and sitting up tall. With each inhale, sit taller, With each exhale, softly rest your shoulders and ribs back and allow yourself to be held, as if there were a soft chair you were sitting in, and leaning onto the tall back.
- Do these breaths a bunch of times, as long as you’re feeling you’re becoming more tall and spacious.
- For many of us – especially those with anxiety and a lot of stress – we are in fight-or-flight mode all the time. Our adrenals are overworking and getting tired out, and never getting a break.
- Focusing on a long exhale slows down the heart rate and blood pressure, like pressing the reset button for our nervous system.
- 3.) Close your eyes and sit in meditation for 2 minutes, which means let go of everything – even judgement about how well you’re letting go. Let your thoughts float by without attaching to them (no, they won’t stop coming – we are not that in control). If you’ve never learned to meditate, Grab more quick and effective practices for moms from Jessica Jennings, MS, by going to the Ma Yoga Living Room Project, her Indiegogo campaign running through March, and choosing an incentive. Choose from video programs that include meditation and breathing, core strengthening for people who hate bicycles, and low back pain relief – all made to squeeze into your busy day, in your own living room.